LESSON 68
March 9

"Love holds no grievances."

PRACTICE SUMMARY

Longer: 1, 10-15 minutes.

Search your mind for those you hold major grievances against.
Then search your mind for those you hold seemingly minor grievances against.
Resolve to see them all as friends. Say to each in turn: "I would see you as my friend, that I may remember you are part of me and come to know myself."
For the remainder, think of yourself surrounded by safety, at peace in a world you love and that loves you, in which nothing can harm you.
Conclude by saying: "Love holds no grievances. When I let all my grievances go I will know I am perfectly safe."

Remarks: You will realize you hold grievances against everyone. This has left you alone in your perception. You may think you cannot let these go, but you can if motivated. If you succeed today, you will never be without motivation again. For you will see how you would feel without grievances.

Shorter: several per hour.

Say: "Love holds no grievances. I would wake to my Self by laying all my grievances aside and wakening in Him."

Response To Temptation: Whenever you feel a grievance against anyone, quickly respond: "Love holds no grievances. Let me not betray my Self."

COMMENTARY

This lesson is a powerful teaching on the effect that holding grievances has on our minds and our thinking.

To hold a grievance is to wish harm on someone; it is, whether we think of it that way or not, to "dream of hatred" (2:5). Some of us--perhaps most of us--have, at times, literally dreamed of revenge on someone we perceive as a victimizer. We have, possibly, consciously wished someone were dead. Probably, however, we have repressed conscious awareness of such thoughts and have deliberately forgotten we had them. Yet even "minor" grievances are the same thing, just in milder form. To hold a grievance is to feel you have been wronged, and the victimizer deserves to be punished for his or her wrong-doing. To wish someone would "get what s/he deserves" is no less hatred than to wish them dead.

"Love holds no grievances." Holding a grievance is the converse of love; love and grievances are mutually exclusive. Yesterday's lesson taught us that "Love created me like Itself." To hold a grievance, then, is to deny that truth; it is an assertion that I am something other than love. We cannot know our Self as Love if we hold any grievances because holding a grievance is teaching us the exact opposite.

"Perhaps you do not yet fully realize just what holding grievances does to your mind" (1:5). The teaching in the next several lines is meaty. Our Source is Love, and we are created like that Source. When we hold a grievance, we seem to be different from our Source, and therefore seem to be cut off from Him (1:6). We are not Love, and God is; we must be separate.

However, the mind cannot quite conceive of a source and its effect as being totally different; therefore, to cope with the logical dilemma, our mind conceives of God in our own imagined image: "It makes you believe that He is like what you think you have become" (1:7). We think God holds grievances, and dream up religions that speak of "sinners in the hands of an angry God." We make an image of a vengeful, punitive God, and cower in terror away from His presence, fearful of our very existance.

The effects of grievances do not stop with seeming to split us off from God, making us different and separate, and then remaking God Himself into a terrifying, vindictive demon. Within us, our true Self seems to fall asleep and thus to disappear from active participation, while the part of us that "weaves illusions in its sleep appears to be awake." We lose sight of our Self and imagine we are something else, a grievance-holding, petty "self," angry at the world.

"Can all this arise from holding grievances? Oh, yes!" (2:2,3) We have redefined God in our own image. We suffer guilt. We have forgotten who we are. All this was inevitable for those that hold grievances.

We have not realized what damage we are doing to our own minds by holding grievances. This is why the Course teaches that forgiveness is not something we do for the sake of others; we do it for our own well-being.

It may not seem possible to give up all grievances; that's understood by the lesson (4:2). It isn't really a matter of possible or impossible, however; it's just a matter of motivation. We can give up any grievance; the question is, do we want to? So this lesson sets out to increase our motivation by asking us to perform an experiment. Basically, it asks us to "try to find out how you would feel without them." The idea is, quite simply, that if we can get a taste of what it feels like to be without grievances, we will prefer the new feeling. "Try it; you'll like it!" as the commercial says. And once we are motivated, once we want to let grievances go--we will. Our minds have that much power.

Notice the use of the words "trying" and "try" in paragraph 6. We are basically doing an exercise in imagination here. Imagine being at peace with everyone. Imagine feeling completely safe, surrounded by love and loving all that surrounds you. Imagine--even just for an instant--that nothing can harm you; that you are invulnerable and totally secure, and that what's more, there is nothing that wants to harm you even if it could. If you can "succeed even by ever so little, there will never be a problem in motivation ever again" (4:5).

Once you get a taste of what this state of mind feels like you are going to want it. Because it feels really good! You are going to become willing to do whatever it takes to experience this more and more, for longer and longer, until it becomes permanent.

I want to emphasize that today's lesson isn't telling us, "Get rid of all your grievances." It isn't laying down a law and making us guilty for having grievances. It is simply trying to motivate us to want to let them go, first by showing us how much pain (illusory harm, but real in our experience) our grievances are bringing to our minds, and then by getting us to experience what a mind without grievances feels like. It is getting us to recognize that holding a grievance is a betrayal--not of God, not of anyone else, but a betrayal of ourselves as Love. Grievances make us believe we are something we are not, and that we are not what we really are.